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I get a lot of clients who come in upset about their dry hair. I always follow up with the question “What products are you using in your home regimen?” The most popular replies are coconut oil, shea butter, glycerin and castor oil. Now, while these listed ingredients can be equally beneficial to your hair, they are rarely stand alone ingredients for your hair. Essentially, these are popularly misused natural hair products.

All These Oils

Oils are lubricants used to restore natural oils that may have been stripped during shampooing and/or styling process, and also to seal. They can also provide great nourishment to your hair in their own capacity. But, if not used in conjunction with a really good  water based moisturising leave in or cream moisturiser, they can seal in dryness and repel any moisture from entering the strands of the hair. 

Shea Butter 

In its raw state is creamy or solid. But, this is just the state of the oil before being pressed or liquefied. Now if they are mixed with other essential oils and a moisturizing component, known as a humectant, then it now has the ability to retain moisture. Water is also a good source of moisture, so mixing with water is a better option.


Combined with water is popular because glycerin too is a humectant. But, if not immersed in moisture, it will actually draw moisture from your hair! This explains why glycerin and water or glycerin based products work better in the humid summer as opposed to the dry winter. The humidity in the air, breeds an environment of moisture, allowing it to absorb the moisture from the air into your hair. But, if used in drier conditions, it will actually suck up the moisture in your hair. Be careful with glycerin as its effectiveness is based upon its surrounding conditions/environment.

Coconut Oil

Coconut oil, though easily passes through the cuticle of the hair, will give a greasy feel, but doesn’t supply lasting moisture. You may need to reapply as needed, or mix with other oils like olive oil (this is my favourite combination), avocado oil, or jojoba oil.

Castor Oil

Castor oil is very thick and often needs to be thinned out with another natural oil in order to be applied easily to the hair or scalp. It also happens to be a humectant and can draw moisture out of the hair if not combined with a water based moisturiser. It can also create product build-up if not rinsed out on some regular basis. In my opinion, castor oil is best as a sealant for the cold winter months. Nothing gets past this thick oil!


  1. When seeking a good moisturiser, water should be listed first. This makes a great base.
  2. Also, if it is promoting itself as “100%” shea butter, vitamin E, jojoba oil and so on, verify that there isn’t anything else listed. (When mixing your own moisturizer)
  3. Other humectants to look for: honey, panthenol, sodium lactate, sorbitol (just to name a few).
  4. When purchasing products, read the ingredients. I love spending time in the store reading ingredients and determining which products are true to their advertisement. Ingredients are listed by concentration, so for example: if it is said to be moisturising, yet lists mineral oil as the 2nd ingredient, or alcohol, avoid at all cost.
  5. Mineral oil gives the illusion of moisture, but quickly evaporates, leaving you to have to use more frequently. 
  6. Products that has alcohol listed within the first 3 ingredients are prone to drying out the hair. 
  7. Good alcohols are: Cetearyl, Cetyl, and Stearyl. These are fatty alcohols that won’t dry your tresses.
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Shedding takes place when we wash our hair, comb our hair or style our hair. On average, we lose about 100 hairs a day. An easy way to tell the difference between a broken hair and shed hair is simple. If you notice a tiny white bulb at the end of your strands, that’s hair that shed! The bulb means the hair has gone through a complete cycle of growth and as a result has fallen out. If your going through a shedding spell, here are three main reasons why…

Stress and anxiety can play a huge role in affecting your hair. Changes in your body’s physiological functions like irregular sleep or lack of an appetite, can be signs of stress. Your body can react to that stress by prematurely speeding up the resting phase, resulting in shedding. Be sure to assess your stress levels and try to keep it to a minimum.
Keeping up with your vitamins is essential in preventing excessive shedding. Calcium (broccoli, milk), Iron (red meat, spinach), and Protein (meat, nuts, cheese) are crucial in preventing shedding! They enrich our blood, and ensure proper hair growth. Eat well and take supplements.


Are you a moisture maniac? Do you excessively deep condition, co-wash and moisturize with moisture-based products? Using too much moisture in your weekly routine can throw off your moisture protein balance. Too much moisture can lead to weak hair follicles; thus, speeding up the shedding cycle. Protein plays a significant role as it strengthens and fortifies your follicles and your tresses! Balance is key!

Removing your weave and learning your texture can be a deeply emotional yet empowering experience. Read about this woman's journey below.

BEauty Portrait of A Young Woman

At 25-years-old, I have spent roughly $17,400 on extensions over the course of the past six years. That's roughly half of the cost of my first car, the cost of my first semester of college, and almost a year's worth of rent for my sublet in New York. This figure does not include hair care or styling products; this reflects the cost of extensions alone. There were times in college when I would forgo grocery shopping to buy hair. I spent money that I didn't have—charging up a credit care to buy hair. Approximately $450 every other month for wefts of hair or full lace wigs with foreign origins—Malaysia, China, Italy, Egypt, and Brazil. In college, I used to joke that where I was from changed every other month depending on the origin of my hair. I was Egyptian for the better portion of my junior and senior years.
For over a decade I have relied on someone else’s hair to make me feel beautiful. Like most women, my serial use of extensions began as an interest—a simple desire for a different look—that quickly turned into a necessity. Soon, I no longer felt confident leaving the house without 14” of hair flowing down my back. The state of health of my own hair began to decline and was seemingly less important than the health of my extensions. As far as I was concerned, I presented the weave as my natural hair, so its’ health was all that mattered. Never mind that my own hair was thinning, breaking, dull, and uneven.
In 2010, I began to wear human hair lace wigs. I liked the freedom that wigs provided in that I could take them off at night and let my natural hair breathe. They also seemed more sanitary, as I was now able to thoroughly wash and deep condition my hair, as well as tend to my scalp on a weekly basis. However, because I had been gluing hair in for so long, I really hadn’t developed a regimen for caring for my chemically processed hair outside of perming it every 6-8 weeks. I should note here, that perming or chemically straightening your hair is not considered a form of hair care, in that it does not improve the health of your hair. After transitioning from weft extensions to wigs, I was still unsure of how to really care for my own hair.

Meanwhile, there was a cultural boom of people going natural in Houston, Texas—where I went to college—that began around 2009. Many of my girlfriends were saying "no" to chemical processing and embracing their naturally curly locs. It was around this time that a sub-culture of “natural speak” began, emerging with its own language. My girlfriends were speaking in acronyms using terms like “TWA,” and “ACV rinse,” and asking one another if they ever “co-washed” or “pre-poo’d” their hair. They spoke of things like “pineappleing” and “twist outs;” it seemed more of a vocabulary for Kamasutra than a method of hair care. All I knew was that there was a movement occurring, and Black girls were defining beauty on their own terms. It was refreshing and terrifying at the same time. Refreshing, because it seemed like an act of revolution, saying no to Western standards of beauty achieved through chemical processing and embracing our natural state as beautiful. Terrifying because soon my peers would apply for internships and jobs in predominantly white corporate America, and how would their natural hair be received? As far as I was concerned, Blacks did not need another hurdle to jump over on the road to corporate success.
In 2011 I decided to go natural long enough to return my hair to a state of health that I hadn’t had since the sixth grade. I had every intention of perming it again. Going natural seemed to be the best way to re-gain strong healthy hair. I transitioned for a year using sew-ins, and an extension process that I loved called “Urban Twists,” done through an Atlanta-based stylist at The Damn Salon. In March of 2014, I committed to going natural once again. This time with a different mindset and a willingness to learn my texture. This being my second trial run, I knew what I was in for and began to approach my hair with child-like curiosity, and a willingness to discover this hair that quite frankly, was foreign to me, having received my first perm at the age of five. It has been just over a year now, and I am finally discovering the products that work for my hair, that don’t leave my locs feeling dry and brittle. Two weeks ago I had my natural, curly, chemical-free hair professionally cut and styled for the first time in twenty years, and after ten years of wearing weave I’ve finally begun to view myself as beautiful without someone else’s hair.

I knew that going natural would require certain things of me— a mental shift in my idea of beauty and a willingness to build a relationship, tolerance and love for my curls. My hair doesn't operate in group think; each strand does its own thing. It's much less about uniformity and much more about individual expression. There's something daring about being natural. As the poet, Mawiyah Hai El-Jamah Bomani puts it, "there's a revolution brewing within my hair and that's no lye."

Yes, I said "Man Weave". You know I believe that people should do what they want, as long as they are able to question their decisions and identify their own problematic behaviour. Having said all this, white men have been wearing toupee's for YEARS and no one has made a big thing of this, but as soon as the black man decides he wants to enhance the hair on the top of his head, it's big news and the whole world must stop turning. Enough of my rant...what do you think?

Man Tracks

Over the years, the technology behind weave installations has become more and more sophisticated. In fact, most times its hard to determine if a woman’s hair is her own or a product of the latest kinky hair manufacturer. But, we never really think that men too are adapting to the trend, particularly at a time when hair loss is on the rise. Enter Aaron White(who is more commonly referred to as Hair Majesty) who is an Atlanta-based hair master based who specializes in installing Man Tracks. Yes, hair tracks for men who are losing their hair and/or looking for a different look. His refined hair installation process (similar to crochet) allows men to even receive fuller hair in an instant. We caught up with the Hair Majesty to give us the scoop on the trend, and find out exactly why weaves are all the rage for our men. What exactly are man tracks? And why is it so popular now?
Aaron White: I define man tracks as the next revolution when it comes to male grooming. It’s almost like, skinny jeans. For so long men wore overly big jeans and slacks—it only took one movement of skinny jeans to change the game for men's fashion. Man Tracks finally meets the need of so many diverse men. For decades men have worried about thinning, receding, or balding hairlines. And when it comes to men's hair, no one has yet to master an affordable solution, that is, until now with my man track technique. There are many things in the market that I feel give false hope. I want mantracks to not just be a hairstyle, but a solution. How exactly do you create the looks?
White: I like to create a personalized look for each individual client, and I feel that is the biggest step into making sure the customized illusions are 100% undetectable. Is the process different when using crochet braids?
White: For this method I do not use crochet techniques at all. Most clients who receive this service are indeed thinning or receding if not bald, and because of this I have to think outside of the box and use creative methods of installation instead of your typical practices. What type of hair do you use?
White: Because the man track service caters to so many men all with different needs, hair textures, and budgets the variety of hair changes. There isn't a particular standard type of hair. I observe the need of my client and [go from there.] Do some men have any hesitations when getting man tracks?
White: Surprisingly, most men do not have any hesitation when inquiring about the service; however, they will say: "I just want to make sure it looks real!" How have women responded to man tracks?
White: Most women had a negative opinion about this service. Immediately, when they hear of a man and weave, their minds picture a flamboyant male with hair sweeping the floor in fluorescent colors. Yet, the same women who questioned the look, eventually complimented the style. Once [they understood the process] they had nothing but positive words to say. Truth be told, most women assume that the man just has a great haircut. How much does it cost?
White: Price varies based on need. But, most styling starts at $125.

Africa is the foundation of everything whether you choose to acknowledge it or not. Check out 100 years of Ethiopian hairstyles!Ethiopian Beauty
Ethiopians woman are, without question, some of the most beautiful in the world. So imagine our delight when WatchCut launched an Ethiopian edition of its 100 Years of Beauty series that proves these women have been slaying in the beauty game forever.
The 13th episode of the mini series shows model Feven G. showcasing the trends from the early twentieth century (think: cornrows and smalls afros) to the late 90’s (think: scrunchies, and ponytails) to today, which is all types of long, loose waves.
When you’re done, check out the behind-the-scenes video to fully grasp the research behind the historic looks.

Ladies and gentlemen, I have officially lost my whole damn mind! A few of my girlfriends and I are getting together for a pool party. We're celebrating a dear friends belated birthday, and doing a last minute turn up before the year ends. I quickly realised that I didn't have a swimming costume to fit my newly round and pregnant shape, so off I went to be brave in the of the mall.

What am I doing?!

First, can I say that I get the weirdest stares when I'm walking in the mall! My hair is really curly and folks are always wondering if it's real, I also look much younger than my actual age and therefore my massive baby bump gets super duper stares. Now I decide to walk around with several options of swim costumes in hand, and people are looking at me as if I have no business being happy in a swimming pool or ocean. Child, have several seats!

Side eye's the hell out of everyone!

I tried Mr. Price and Foschini first, but they didn't have a lot of options left, and rightfully so since I'm super late in the game to be bathing suit shopping. Off to trusty Woolworths I went for the ride of my life. I have to say that Woolies had an okay selection of suits for older women, or women who prefer to cover up more of their body. There are some fun and flirty options as well, but there isn't really an in-between. Keep that in mind if you're going swimsuit shopping soon.

At first I decided that I wanted to coverup a bit and avoid exposing my new back fat and cellulite on the bums, so I decided on this two piece outfit.

Black Applique Halter Top
Plain Swim Skirt
It was okaaaaay. Really boring and safe for no damn reason. I usually live in black but it wasn't the one for me. Off to the second outfit.
Frill Print Bandeau Bikini Top

Frill Print Bikini Bottom

This was super fun but my breasts laughed at this top! They were spilling all over the place and it didn't provide enough support overall. Next!

Textured Pushup Bikini Top

Textured Bikini
I loved this swim suit in coral, which looks amazing on my skin! I went with this look and paired it with a beautiful bright kaftan for a little coverage.

Excuse the lighting in the pic. Late night excitement :)

My breasts are massive and amazing! My baby bump is undeniable and I'm definitely ready to pop! I'm looking forward to wearing this over the weekend and taking some great pictures in the sun. I really hope this post encourages pregnant ladies to celebrate their bumps and be proud of what their bodies are doing regardless of how they may feel. We are amazing, beautiful and powerful! Love your body!

Let me go put some clothes on...


I love Kiehl's products. I honestly think that the only thing I haven't tried are their cleansers, which I can't wait to get my hands on. That's a story for another day...

Offering skin with its own daytime defense system to revitalize and help reduce the signs of skin fatigue, Kiehl’s Daily Reviving Concentrate features a specifically selected, highly concentrated blend of 100% natural origin ingredients including Ginger Root Essential Oils, Tamanu and Sunflower Seed Botanical Oils. Designed to reduce daily environmentally-induced oxidation, this non-comedogenic, non-acnegenic, mineral oil free and paraben-free formula is lightweight, quickly absorbing and helps strengthen and protect the skin barrier for a smooth, fresh and healthy look all day long.

Kiehl's honestly knows how to do a facial oil. The first oil of theirs that I tried was the Midnight Recovery Concentrate, and it was one of my favourite products at the time. I'm excited to have an oil that I can use on my face during the day to compliment my night routine with Kiehl's.

Kiehl’s chemists developed Daily Reviving Concentrate with 100% natural origin ingredients in a blend of essential and botanical oils to help support skin’s natural defense system and visibly improve skin throughout the day and over time for an energized, awakened and radiant look.  
“When we set out to select essential and botanical oils to formulate with, we wanted to leverage the power of natural ingredients that had strong technical profiles to help protect skin and aid its visible appearance,” stated Dr. Geoff Genesky, Head of Kiehl’s Laboratory. “Kiehl’s Sunflower Seed Oil undergoes an extra distillation step that further concentrates an active fraction of the oil, but it is also gentle enough to maintain the oil’s integrity. The result is of great interest for a variety of benefits for healthy-looking skin, including the support of barrier strength to help ensure water retention. Tamanu Oil has been studied for its soothing effects, making it a great choice for a daytime product due to skin stressors present throughout the day. And we chose our specific Ginger Root Essential Oil since in vitro studies have demonstrated its antioxidant capability.”

Scientific research on Daily Reviving Concentrate’s key ingredients also revealed the following:
  • Ginger Root Oil: Extensive in vitro studies have shown that this essential oil protects skin cells from UVA-induced lipid peroxidation and significantly reduces the release of pro-inflammatory markers5 . It is also known to stimulate dermis proteins such as Procollagen I, Collagen III and Elastin6 .
  • Sunflower Seed Oil: This botanical oil has been shown to increase skin hydration, reduce the appearance of redness and improve skin smoothness. It also has demonstrated anti-inflammatory properties by decreasing in vitro release of pro-inflammatory markers. In addition, in vitro studies have revealed that Sunflower Seed Oil stimulates receptors involved in skin barrier lipids synthesis and corneocyte’s maturation7 .
  • Tamanu Oil: This botanical oil brings emollient properties to lock moisture in the skin. In addition, due to its composition rich in lipids such as linoleic acid that are important in healthy looking skin, it provides protecting properties that inhibit the release of pro-inflammatory markers, which within the formula to soothe the skin8 . 
Stay tuned for my full review on this exciting new product, and I might just do a video on all the Kiehl's products I use on my face and body.
Ladies and gentleman, I do not take excessive pictures of myself, even in this very important state of being pregnant. This is why no one likes me on Instagram, and I'm perfectly fine with that. Luckily for you, I have been forced to take photos on a few occasions, and this is the only reason that I can prove on the internet that I am in fact heavily pregnant.
Without further ado, my pregnancy and my funny clothing choices...

19 Weeks & 5 Days Preggers
I've had this black dress for over a year now, and it's quite stretchy and accommodating for my pregnancy. If there is something business orientated and important that I need to attend, you'll most likely find me wearing this. The jersey is actual from the maternity section at Mr. Price in Sandton City. I actually do not know what makes it different from any other jersey one would buy.
19 Weeks & 5 Days Preggers
21 Weeks & 1 Day Preggers
None of these are maternity clothes either! The cardigan and dress are both from WoolWorth's from over a years ago. Maxi dresses are forgiving for all body types. Go and get you one and live your life!
21 Weeks & 2 Days (The very next day from the above picture)
I look MUCH smaller here and I'm still not wearing maternity clothes. The tank top is from about 10 years ago! The stretch skinny jeans are a size 34 and from Woolworth's. Takkies are from Pick n Pay Clothing. So incredibly comfy in this outfit!
21 Weeks & 2 Days
24 Weeks Preggers
I'm still pretty active with walking and hitting the gym lightly. This is a typical gym outfit for me. You might even find me in the supermarket dressed like this. I really don't stress myself. Again, my bump looks pretty small at this point.
24 Weeks Preggers
I don't know what I was talking about at this moment, but I clearly didn't know that baby daddy was snapping away...
29 Weeks & 1 Day Preggers
We were on our way to church this morning and I felt like wearing something bright, so I wrapped my hair up and threw on this dress. Again, this is an old maxi dress that still fits. No maternity clothes yet!
33 Weeks & 1 Day Preggers
Ok, I live in Woolworth's clothing. This is a blue shift dress with peek-a-boo detail at the cleavage and blue, white and black slip ons. I'm finally starting to gain noticeable weight and my nose is expanding at an incredible rate. I was so tired this Sunday but I got my butt up to attend church.
33 Weeks & 1 Day Preggers
I can't promise that I'll start dressing any better anytime soon. This is it! I will start taking more pictures as I quickly approach my delivery date. 7 more weeks until my angel face is in my arms...can't wait!

At the beginning of the season change from winter to summer, Woolworth's had some major sales. I decided to start buying some winter clothes for baby and Peter Rabbit themed clothing caught my eyes immediately. I'm a big fan of a neutral colours.

Here are the items I began with...

This is actually an overall set with a cute shirt to match.

This jersey could go over the the overall set for those very cold days

The warmest most snuggly outfit ever!

The best part is that I didn't pay full price for anything. Definitely consider buying your little ones clothes off season in order to save a few bucks. I bought these baby clothes in a size 3-6 months and up. I'm hoping my nunus gets good wear out of these, but one never knows with the way babies grow.

I have a lot more items that I'll be revealing periodically in order to get your ovaries screaming and your partners running. Stay tuned!!!

This article appeared originally on Tamera Mowry
I love a great facial. Afterwards my skin feels so clean and I notice an immediate difference in texture and tightness. Beyond genetics, I swear it’s what gives me radiant skin. I try to do regular upkeep at home, especially after so many days of full makeup on The Real and dealing with the air quality of LA., but it’s professional facials that really do the trick. That’s why today I’m thrilled to feature a guest post by celeb facialist Shani Darden. She’s seriously amazing! She’s here to share about the importance of facials and how to prep for them. So, here she is…
Getting professional facials is so important for understanding how your skin works. Most people have no idea what type of skin they actually have, so they use products that are wrong for them. This can lead to new skin problems as well as cause breakouts. Just because a product worked for someone else, doesn’t mean it will work for you!
Benefits of a professional facial
When you get a facial, you’re working with an esthetician that’s trained to analyze your skin and determine what types of products will let your best skin prevail. Estheticians have access to higher strength products than ones you use at home, such as exfoliants and masks, that can do everything from stimulate cell renewal to lighten discoloration, help acne, or even deeply hydrate depending on your skin needs.
Having extractions done by a professional is another benefit to getting a facial and one of the most effective ways of unclogging pores and blackheads. Since at-home extractions often do more harm than good–people tear their skin, which can lead to scarring–it’s so important to see someone who is professionally trained. Which brings me to how to find the best esthetician.
I recommend finding someone with a medical background, such as previous work with dermatologists. Typically, someone who studied in the medical field will have a better knowledge of how to effectively treat a wide array of skin issues.They’ll be able to assess your skin properly and tell you what the most effective routine and frequency for future facials is. Because how often you get facials really depends on your skin type. If you have problem skin or breakouts, you should have a facial treatment up to 2-3 times a week until its under control, then once a month after for continued maintenance.
Two to three times a week can seem overwhelming when you’re on the budget, but the long term changes to your skin make the experience worth it. Plus, once down to once a month you’ll have a much better idea on how to take care of your skin. For those who need to come in 2-3 times a week at first, the appointments are all the same length, not shorter even though you are coming in more frequent. So you’ll be reaping all of the same benefits each time.
How you treat your skin and body before you come in for a facial matters as well. Some of my favorite pre-facial tips are to be hydrated and bare faced before you come in for a treatment. Also, stay off of strong prescriptions or any products that could cause irritation before your appointment. The facial step that really helps with maintaining a youthful glow is professional exfoliation, such as a light chemical peel. So, if you can’t afford regular treatments, at-home peels are one of my favorite options to achieve smooth, radiant skin.
– Shani
This article appeared originally on Tamera Mowry
I’m so happy to have a guest post from my good friend and doula Talitha Phillips today. She’s worked with Aden in the past and her and I have had many discussions about how Adam and I want to parent. Her perspective is amazing, so I’ve enlisted her to give you guys some food for thought and explain a little about how we choose to parent. Hope you love, and can connect, with this post. 
Let’s face it, or publicly admit it, parenting is hard.  It’s also beautiful and wonderful, but wouldn’t it be nice if each little bundle of joy came with a perfectly designed instruction manual?  Not to mention if the demands of the world (families, siblings, spouses, jobs) could silence long enough for us to master this new addition.
For the past fifteen years, I’ve had the privilege of working with families during this sweet and often challenging time. One of the greatest things I’ve learned as a doula and as a mommy is to stop focusing on the answers (especially since often there are none) and to start asking questions that can help us embrace and enjoy the journey.  It’s scary to feel like we don’t know what we’re doing, but by not having set guidelines, there is a beautiful opportunity in motherhood – we get to be a part of creating homes and families that reflect our values and fit within our lifestyles.
Tamera Mowry Family
As Tamera recently prepared to return to work, we had many heartfelt conversations.  We’re both wives, moms of multiple children, have incredibly busy and demanding work schedules, and want the best for our families.  Yet there’s something about being a mom in our culture that tries to label us.
We hear: “Are you a traditional or an attachment parent?” “Do you breast or bottle feed?”  “Do you work or stay home?”  “Do you let your baby cry it out or not?”  Instead of being simple and maybe even silly questions, we’ve allowed these questions to define us. Furthermore, we translate the questions into, “Do you love your baby?” “Are you a good mom?” Or my favorite, “How screwed up will your kid be?”
This video illustrates it so perfectly:  
As parents we have one important thing in common–to love and protect these little ones that have been entrusted in our care. Instead of focusing on the potentially divisive approaches to parenting, I help create what’s best for the family. We talk about priorities, lifestyles, and goals.  One of my favorite questions is, “Do you need the baby to fit into your world, or are you comfortable letting the baby set the schedule?”  There are no right or wrong answers; it’s about navigating through the process and then making adjustments.
As I’ve watched Tamera embrace motherhood, I’ve seen her and Adam work as a team to create a parenting style that upholds their values and makes their life manageable. This includes sleep and feeding schedules, and everyone sleeps in their own beds; it means less baby sitters; it involves discipline and potty training and, at times, battles over toddler meals and tantrums. It also includes laughter, snuggles, bedtime stories, kisses, playtime, and date nights.
How we choose to parent is simply our unique way of expressing love for our children. We will make mistakes, but we’ve been given these children to love and nurture and we need each other’s support. Today, when we encounter another mom or dad, let’s not critique or label.  Let’s instead appreciate the ways they are caring for their little ones and tell them they’re doing a good job.  You never know, it just may be the very thing that encourages them to do it all over again tomorrow.

Why Natural Hair Extensions Are Dope:

One word, versatility!  Natural hair extensions are now offered in coil patterns ranging from loose wavy to kinky curly (or if your down with natural hair terms, 3B-4C).  Most 100% virgin natural hair extensions can be purchased in the form of machine wefts, wigs, closures, and clip-ins.  Happily allowing natural girls the ability to finally experiment with various hair lengths, volume, curl patterns, and color choices all without the commitment of altering their natural curl pattern.  Not to mention, the freedom to still rock a fierce natural protective style like twist-outs, bantu-knots, buns, etc.

How Natural Hair Extensions Are Installed:

Most natural hair extensions are installed using a professional sew-in method.  Therefore, to prevent hair damage and breakage we always suggest visiting a professional hairstylists that specializes in natural hair care versus choosing to install yourself. During the sew-in method, your natural hair is braided into a intricate braid-pattern, and then the weft of the extensions are sewn onto the braids to create a flawless blend.  This installation method takes between 3-5 hours depending on your desired finished hairstyle and costs anywhere between $200-$1000 based on the expertise of your stylists.
Natural Extensions; Installation Process for Natural Hair Extensions Source: Pinterest
Installation Process for Natural Hair Extensions
Source: Pinterest
If you’re looking for a more DIY approach wigs and clip-in extensions are the best choice because they allow for you to install and remove your extensions as needed with minimal effort.

Natural Hair Extension Maintenance & Upkeep:

Most sew-in installations last approximately 12 weeks before they need to be removed or refreshed, so upkeep is very minimal if you properly care for your hair extensions as you would your own hair with regular cleansing, conditioning, moisturizing, and wrapping your hair at night with a silk scarf or satin bonnet.
Most importantly with any protective style, it’s very critical to thoroughly cleanse your scalp and hair while wearing natural hair extensions to maintain healthy hair.  First, we suggest cleansing your scalp and hair every 7-14 days with DE Strengthening Therapy Cleansing Sulfate Free Shampoo to rid the hair and scalp of product build-up and impurities.  Follow up with DE Natural Curl Cleanser and Natural Almond & Avocado Leave-In Conditioner for added moisture and easy detangling.
Furthermore, because natural hair extensions crave moisture like real hair, be prepared to hydrate your curly extensions frequently with water or a lightweight curl refresher like ourCoconut & Monoi Hair Coconut Water Curl Refresher.  But, when it comes to product on natural extensions, less is always best to avoid tangling or matting.

All In All:

If you’re looking to change up your coils then natural hair extensions may be for you!  Do your research on quality hair brands, find a trusted hair professional, and be sure to care for your new curls as you would your own for the best results
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Losing hair can be a scary thing. Even when I know it's just shed hair breaking away, I still freak out a little bit when it's a handful. As you transition, your hair will be strained and stressed to a certain degree at the line of demarcation. You will create additional stress on your hair if you don't care for your strands properly. You must give your hair what it needs everyday to prevent breakage as you transition.

So, how do you know when the amount of breakage you have is normal? You will lose some strands when you detangle, but if you are constantly noticing hair breaking off into your hands, on the floor, in and around the sink or in the shower your breakage is excessive. If you gently tug at your hair and it breaks this is not normal. If you are simply stroking your hair and strands break away, again, this is not normal. So, what can you do specifically to repair your hair?
1. Deep condition your hair more often. It will help reduce the amount of breakage you are experiencing.
2. Incorporate a conditioner or deep conditioner with protein in your hair regimen. Protein balance is key.
3. Thoroughly moisturize your hair from root to tip to keep your hair soft and supple. Properly moisturized hair is less dry making it less susceptible to breakage.
4. Wear styles that require a little amount of manipulation. Styles that pull and strain your hair are causing additional stress to the line of demarcation, which increases breakage.

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Massages are in-cred-ible. They are the perfect service to help you relax, recharge, and even fix some lingering health issues. But, they can be funny too. We've all been there—navigating the waters while a stranger massages your naked body can be awkward. And, our minds tend to wander. We crowd-sourced the most hilarious (and most common!) thoughts every person has had during a massage because you're not alone. Trust us.

1. I have to disrobe and get into this bed quickly just in case the masseuse comes back in here mid-jean tug. There is nothing more mortifying than a person watching you shimmy a bunch and peel off your skinny jeans. Really, there isn't. Try to think of one.
2. Now that I'm under the sheet, how do I let them know I'm ready.Do I say anything? Has it been too long? If I don't tell the masseuse that I'm ready to go will he/she forget about me and force me to lie here forever? I wonder if I can order Seamless to this spa.
3. OK, the masseuse is back. Good thing I didn't yell out that I was ready. Or have to explain that Seamless delivery guy.
4. This person's hands are so soft. I wonder if I can ever make my hands this soft? It would probably mean I'd have to take up massaging as a profession which would be unfortunate for the industry because I'm terrible at giving massages.
5. Ahhh, finally relaxing. This is the most blissful experience I've ever had.
6. The heated bed is splendid. But, now I'm sweating. Is is embarrassing that I'm starting to perspire during this process? I wonder if everyone starts to sweat, or if this is a me-specific situation.
7. It feels so good that the masseuse is massaging my hands. But it's kind of also like we're holding hands now. Is this too intimate? Is it strange that I'm starting to think this is intimate? I need to turn off my brain.
8. Here comes the "flip over" situation. I'm totally naked and now starting to feel like maybe people don't get completely nude for this. Here we go. I'm flipping over naked. Yup, that's the front of me naked... and this is the back.
9. *flips over while cringing*
10. What is this delicious smell? The oil smells like rainbows and sunshine. I would buy an entire bathtub full of this stuff. Maybe if I did fill up my bathtub with this fragrant massage oil (and sit in it for the rest of my life) my hands would be as soft as this masseuse's hands.
11. Is this supposed to hurt? I can't tell if this is the "good" kind of pain or just, you know, pain. I bet this is going to do wonders for my back.
12. I hope the masseuse didn't notice I just dozed off for a while.And my body totally twitched when I woke up.
13. Thankfully I didn't let loose any other bodily functions while I snoozed. I think...
14. I hope this person is not a serial killer because they could relax me and kill me right now—and I wouldn't know the difference. OK, now I really need to turn off my brain.
15. Is it over already? I never, ever want to leave. Nope. Not getting up. I wonder if I can work remotely while I lie here for the rest of my life.
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